If your are successful in meeting the three challenges of
divorce, I believe you can open up new opportunities in you
life and put the disappointments of your marriage behind
you, once and for all. Because these challenges last many
years, this book is a guide for parents who are thinking
about divorce, who are in the process of getting a divorce,
or who split up a few or even many years ago and are deeply
concerned about how their children are going in the post-
divorce family. It describes the changes that you will
experience in those first few days, weeks, and months after
the decision is made and what you can do to take control
and stay in control of your life. I can tell you exactly
what to say to your children, and how to choose the right
kind of custody for your children, and how to help each
child settle into his or her new schedule without tears.
Most of all, I can show you the changes that lie ahead once
the dust settles. The turning points are numerous, the
danger points are unexpected, but so are the opportunities.
I will be your guide.
--From the Introduction
In the tradition of the best parenting guidebooks comes a
new work by renowned child psychologist Judith S.
Wallerstein on a subject that vexes millions of American
moms and dads: How can you genuinely protect your children
during and after divorce? Wallerstein answers this
important question with knowledge gathered from thirty
years of in-depth interviews with children of divorce and
their parents. You'll learn what you should say and do for
children at each age and stage of development. You'll
discover the many ways that divorce will change your family
in the years ahead. You'll understand the challenges of how
to be an effective parent outside of marriage, how to
choose the custody plan that is best for your child, what
you need to know to create a healthy remarriage, and what
to say to your children when they reach adulthood. Divorce
is not a single event but a lifelong trajectory of changed
circumstances that demand a different kind of parenting
than we have ever known.
With compassion and wisdom, Wallerstein shows how to create
a new kind of family. Her experience has educated her in
the ways that work, and in the ways that don't. For the
first time, she shares her deep understanding of raising
children after divorce, and how you and they can make use
of the second chance that divorce can provide.